On My Mind: Pajama-Gate

Bethenny Frankel dons Brynne's nightshirt and shorts on Instagram. Credit: Bethenny Frankel Instagram

Bethenny Frankel dons Brynne’s nightshirt and shorts on Instagram. Credit: Bethenny Frankel Instagram

People often ask my opinion about the Housewives and usually I will change the subject or turn the question on them, thus excusing myself from the hot seat. See, I’ve made a conscious decision to tell you stories as they happen and, via social media, be a sounding board for your opinions. However, once in a while I have an opinion so strong about something pertaining to the lovely ladies of Bravo that I need to let it out, lest it fester beneath the surface in that mental graveyard where my unpublished thoughts go, not to rest, but to be a ghost that won’t stop annoying me.

That is the category that my reaction to a recent story about Bethenny Frankel falls into. A couple of weeks back Frankel Instagrammed a picture of herself wearing her four year-old daughter Brynne‘s pajamas. The picture ignited a fire storm of criticism both against the former Bravo star and talk-show host and then against those that spoke out about it. The whole thing ended with an obviously defensive Frankel sharing a picture of herself in oversized men’s sweats with a snarky comment attached.

I cannot speak for what Bethenny’s motives were for sharing the initial photo. Whether it was silliness, bragging, a little of both, or something else, I cannot say. The only thing I can speak of is how it permeated my brain, and this is why I think that photo, coming from a woman who has somewhat marketed herself as a dietary guru, was irresponsibly posted.

I, like many women-and men these days too- have struggled with body image. (Come on, you don’t think I spend that much time in the gym running on the treadmill just because I love it, do you?) Since the age of 12 I have not always been kind to my body. I’ve become better friends with it over the years, but that demon, the one that speaks from inside the mirror and points out your “fat” never fully leaves. It is always there lurking.

People who suffer from eating disorders, or have teetered on the cusp of disordered eating and distorted body image, are easily influenced, especially when young. There are entire websites devoted to glorifying anorexia and giving visitors dangerous diet ideas and forums to discuss them. Eating disorders are competitive diseases. The worst thing for a victim of disordered eating is to develop a friendship with another sufferer. This is the exact reason why I fear that Bethenny posting such a photo set a new standard for some of her followers. Somewhere out there is a B fan who saw that and now has a new “goal” to attain, or a new reason to not feel “good enough”.

Yes, it is ridiculous. I mean I have children that wear size 4T pajamas. Have you SEEN pajamas for a four year old? They are TINY! Like so tiny I don’t even know how even the ultimate Skinnygirl got her skinny little bitch ass into them. (For the record as petite as Bethenny appears on camera, she’s yet even smaller in person). However, even though my rational mind knows that adults aren’t designed to wear toddler pjs, that demon still had to have her say. For a brief second I heard her, “You know those pictures from the event the other night weren’t that flattering, perhaps you should strive to be four-year-old pajama thin…” And for a brief moment, while folding my sons’ laundry I actually considered it.

Fortunately I have weathered enough of the storm to know when the demon speaks and tell it to be quiet. However, there are many who still don’t know how. If Bethenny simply was making her daughter laugh, her follow up explanation, then cool, but did she really have to share it? To me it wreaked of “Check me out, I’m in four-year-old pajamas.” I know many of us would want to brag if we could fit into them…more evidence of our disordered thinking when it comes to thinness and society.

My whole point is this:

Bethenny, many women read your diet and lifestyle books. We look up to you for inspiration in all areas of life, from dieting to business. Your rules for eating echo in our heads (“taste everything, eat nothing”). Please don’t for once think that wearing pjs designed for a very small child is by any means normal or common. For most of us it is dangerous and unhealthy. Your huge status gives you a huge responsibility, therefore certain things shouldn’t be for the world to see. If it was just a tender moment between you and Brynne, then heed the words of Billy Joel. Sometimes we need to “Leave a tender moment alone“…if not for the common good, then at least for certain things to be sacred between mother and daughter.

…and that folks is how I really feel.

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Reality Roundup

Nene Leakes in NYC with her controversial handbag. Credit GC images/The Daily Mai

Nene Leakes in NYC with her controversial handbag. Credit GC images/The Daily Mai

By Brent Osborne with Tara Cushing

Another day, another Real Housewives offspring gone wild! The seventeen-year-old daughter of Yolanda Foster, star of The Real Housewives of Beverly Hills, was arrested earlier last week for driving under the influence.

Bella Hadid was arrested around four in the morning this past Tuesday after allegedly blowing through a stop sign and almost colliding with a Los Angeles County Sheriff’s Department Patrol Car, TMZ reports.

In addition to driving on a suspended license, Bella scored a .14 on the breathalyzer—nearly double the legal limit. However, because she is a minor, she legally cannot drive with ANY alcohol in her system.

After being arrested Bella was released into the care of her stepfather, legendary music producer David Foster.

NeNe Leakes dished out some juicy gossip this past week on Watch What Happens Live!

After the intense sixth season of The Real Housewives of Atlanta, Nene and co-star Cynthia Bailey could not keep their friendship alive past the reunion.

“There’s no friendship and there will not be. I am so done with her. I don’t even have words for her,” NeNe told Andy Cohen. “We had a real friendship. I really loved her.”

“I feel like if she had an issue with me, I don’t understand somebody waiting six months to have an issue with you: come over your house, eat your food, go to the hospital, go to Fashion Week with you, travel for New Year’s, and then, all of a sudden, sit on the couch and make up some s**t. She blindsided me sitting on the couch,” NeNe said about Cynthia’s remarks during the reunion show. “I can forgive her but I don’t want to have a friendship with her.”

Somebody else Nene can’t play nice with is the self-proclaimed Queen of Media Wendy Williams. Leakes’ claws came out after Williams made a remark about her custom made Hermes Birkin bag. Williams asked her followers what they thought about Nene defacing the $10,000 purse by having her trademark quotes printed on its surface. Seems innocent enough, right? Not to Nene who stated the following message to Williams on her blog:

credit: t.neneleakesofficial.com

credit: t.neneleakesofficial.com

 

One person Nene may not be locking horns with anytime soon is RHOA‘s Phaedra Parks. As Parks’ husband Apollo Nida prepares for a 10 year prison sentence for bank fraud, the Atlanta entertainment lawyer and author of Southern Belle is going to be taking a Housewife hiatus. Multiple sources are reporting that Parks will be leaving RHOA immediately, though she may want back in for season 8. A source close to Parks told HollywoodLife.com that she is “holding her head high” these days. After a social media break Parks returned to both Twitter and Instagram this week to promote her book and  some upcoming events. Reports say that her season 7 hiatus will be so she can focus on her family. Phaedra and Apollo have two young sons together.

Some say that Reality TV has taken the place of soap operas, and this may be the proof!

After months of speculation, it seems like Days of Our Lives alum Lisa Rinna may have earned a spot on RHOBH! But that is not the only surprise, US Weekly says they have also confirmed that DOOL‘s Eileen Davidson (55) is also joining the cast!

According to Us Weekly, Lisa, 51, has begun filming scenes including her birthday party on July 11 at Lisa Vanderpump’s newest restaurant Pump in West Hollywood, California.

Lisa has been friends with Kyle Richards and Lisa Vanderpump for years,” a source told the mag.

Yes, it’s coming back and I’m coming back,” Kyle Richards told Us Weekly earlier this summer, “I feel good. I’m looking forward to a new season. I think it’s going to be a really good season and I’m excited. I’m curious, like the viewer, to see things unfold and see what the relationships are like.”

Kyle also revealed that her sister, Kim Richards, would be returning for the upcoming season.

Lastly if you have been missing the Manzo‘s it won’t be long! Last week Caroline Manzo took to social media to announce that the final day of filming her upcoming series Manzo’d With Children  had concluded. The former Real Housewives of New Jersey star told her fans that the show will air in the fall.

Tell us— Are you looking forward to the new season of The Real Housewives of Beverly Hills? Do you think the addition of actresses is proof that the shows are becoming more and more scripted? Leave a comment below and voice your opinion! Your email will never be sold or shared.

Do you have a submission or idea for next week’s Reality Roundup? Email your thoughts to brent@tbbreality.com!

Debriefing the Knot

TBB and Vikki Ziegler at the RHONJ season 6 premier party.

TBB and Vikki Ziegler at the RHONJ season 6 premier party.

Vikki Ziegler is definitely tough! On Bravo‘s Untying The Knot she had to tell some pretty stubborn personalities just where to stick their stuff. How does one get that tough? Be born and bred in the Gardenstate! We caught up with this no nonsense Jersey Girl at , where else, but Velocity 1 Media‘s Real Housewives of New Jersey premier party for Project Ladybug and the Deborah Hospital Foundation.

TBB: You just finished your first season on Bravo, had you been on Reality TV before?

VZ: I’ve done VH1, but pretty much all the cable networks as a talking head as a legal analyst.

TBB: Your show, a lot like Millionaire Matchmaker, was very structured; the unpredictability being in the couples you mediated. How did you feel about the final product?

VZ: I loved it! I think it was educational. I think people really loved the different types of couples and every week you didn’t know if they were going to stay together or not. I think it was a fresh new type of Reality TV. I got such great feedback. I was really happy with the show and how it turned out!

TBB: How much say did you have in how things all came together?

VZ: I pretty much did everything I normally do in my day to day mediations, so it was all me.

TBB: Did you have any trouble finding couples who were willing to put it all out there for the world to see?

VZ: There were very special couples that came on, for sure. (Laughs)

TBB: Of all of your clients who appeared on Untying The Knot, who left the greatest impression on you?

VZ: Tim and Kelly broke my heart, they were the worst! Krissy and Tina were a lot of fun, though heartbreaking as well, and Jacques and Mira I thought were beautiful people in and out and I really enjoyed them. Those would be my top three!

TBB: Which personalities were the most difficult for you to deal with?

VZ: The last episode, Iret and Stuart because Iret was really addicted to her stuff and Stuart was pretty much done and didn’t want to give in. I really had to come up with a good compromise or I knew they would not listen to my recommendations.

TBB: We know that there’s a lot of footage that ends up on proverbial cutting room floor, what was the real time, real life reaction when Jennifer and Golan found out that their Anwar Sadat passport was no where near the six figure value they had predicted?

VZ: They were so shocked and upset, actually they were pretty pissed off. They had done a business deal and put up collateral for that passport and then found out it was practically worth nothing. These mediations went on for hours, and unfortunately the viewers only got a glimpse of what I was actually doing due to the amount of time TV allotted. There was so much more that I wanted people to see, but again I think they got the gist of what was happening.

TBB: You are here supporting the premiere of the new season of Real Housewives of New Jersey, which once again features your long time friend Dina Manzo. Are you a fan of the show?

VZ: I am and I know other people on it too. I grew up in Wayne and they (Dina and Teresa Giudice) are from Paterson, so it’s the same area. So, yes, I’m a big supporter of (RHONJ) and rooting for everyone from New Jersey always!